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  • Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare

  • How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself
  • By: Shahida Arabi
  • Narrated by: Julie McKay
  • Length: 19 hrs and 53 mins
  • 4.1 out of 5 stars (128 ratings)
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Summary

Although clinical research has been conducted on narcissism as a disorder, less is known about its effects on victims who are in toxic relationships with partners with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Individuals with this disorder engage in chronic devaluation and manipulation of their partners, a psychological and emotional phenomenon known as "narcissistic abuse". Unfortunately, the full extent of what narcissistic abuse entails is not taught in any psychology class or diagnostic manual. Since pathological narcissists are unlikely to seek treatment for their disorder, it is difficult to pinpoint what exactly makes a narcissistic abuser tick and the manipulative tactics they use, which are likely to differ from those of other types of abusers as they are more covert and underhanded. What is even more baffling is the addiction we form with our narcissistic abusers, created by biochemical bonds and trauma bonds that are also unlike any other relationship we experience.

Using the latest scientific research as well as thousands of survivor accounts, this book will explore how the emotional manipulation tactics of narcissistic and antisocial partners affect those around them, particularly with regards to its cumulative socioemotional and psychological effects on the victim. It will also address questions such as: What successful techniques, tools, and healing modalities (both traditional and alternative) are available to survivors who have been ridiculed, manipulated, verbally abused, and subject to psychological warfare? What can survivors do to better engage in self-love and self-care? How can they forge the path to healthier relationships, especially if they've been a victim of narcissistic abuse by multiple people or raised by a narcissist? Most importantly, how can they use their experiences of narcissistic abuse to empower themselves towards personal development? What can their interactions with a narcissistic abuser teach them about themselves, their relationship patterns, and the wounds that still need to be healed in order to move forward into the happy relationships and victorious lives they do deserve?

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©2016 Shahida Arabi (P)2016 Audible, Inc.

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Useful

Comprehensive, lots of useful tips.
A bit redundant, repetitions in performance.
A reference pdf would be more useful than spoken URLs.

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Way too long

I stuck with this book for 16 hours, but I had to stop there because the book is so repetitive. Although the contents are very useful for a sufferer like me, I only need to hear things once. Each chapter said the same things over and over again. Summing up; very useful information, but said too many times.

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Empowering

I have been a victim of narcissistic partners too., in the journey to healing. This book is very empowering in spotting narcissist, how to manage them just keep your distance from them.

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This is necessary

Just all I needed to read - hear to understand how empaths and narcissists can be so deeply linked

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A BIG Thank you!

I love this book. I recommend it to anyone who is involved or has ever had an encounter with a narcissistic person especially those like myself raised by one to read it. The most helpful thing I learned was how to look at those with NPD like little children and to mirror their behaviour rather than internalise it. I invalidate back now and that feels fantastic after my invalidation all those years. After reading this book I have better boundaries in place. Learning about ‘Codependency’ relationships and how overlooked the effects of NPD has on survivors saddened me but helped me to realise I will always have to work on my inner self. This book gives great tips on self care. It’s has been very well put together by amazing people.

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Enlightening

So glad I listened to this book, it has been eye opening... So many OMG moments , totally empowering and gave me the push I needed to block 🚫 block 🚫 block and start to heal ...

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A totally successful healing mechanism

I have been able to use this book to understand the nature of my ex, process this and find ways to move forward and heal, The author clearly wants this to happen to the reader who is looking for help and encourages this in a very concise, knowledgeable way. I even stoped blaming myself! I feel I get it so much more comprehensively now. Thank you so much Shahida…-You totally rock

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Just what I needed.

But no matter what the book says or how well it identifies with your situation its ultimately up to you to look inside you, find your worth, find your power and desire for peace and use it as your shield. Its up to you to decide who, what and when you allow anyone to penetrate that. If you take this book and its teachings seriously, you will truly become a narcissists nightmare.

I've started to be short, distant and quite blunt with my boyfriend. Treating him as I've allowed him to treat me. I've turned the tables and now, I hold the cards and guess what..... Now I don't care to be in control. I dont care to have him around. I know if I allow him back the cycle will only continue but its up to me and I'm over it! I'm walking away with my pride and my dignity.

This book is worth the read! Buy it!

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open my eyes

This book has opened my eyes to understand why my ex behaves the ways he behaves. It also helps to take proactive steps to protect myself.

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Insightful read/listen

Enjoying this thoroughly. Reinforcing my reasons for leaving an abusive relationship and giving me hope. Reassuring and gives you useful tools to consider/use.

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