Do you use substances or engage in compulsive activities to regulate your mood? Do you reach for something sweet, a couple of drinks, or a pack of cigarettes after a difficult day because you can't unwind without them? Do you race to the stores to spend away the day's frustrations or run around in circles taking more time to get less done? If these self-defeating habits sound familiar, Emotional Sobriety will shed light on why and how these coping mechanisms threaten your health and impact resilience. When we manage the stresses of the day by turning to outside 'mood managers' such as food, sex, work, shopping, gambling, drugs, and alcohol rather than healthier forms of 'self-soothing,' it is because we lack emotional sobriety - the state of processing our thoughts efficiently to bring our emotions into balance, says best-selling author and renowned addictions psychologist Tian Dayton, Ph.D. In her latest book, Emotional Sobriety, Dr. Dayton shares compelling, honest tales of her life experiences and case studies of those she has counseled. Illustrating that emotional sobriety is a mind/body phenomenon, Dr. Dayton includes ideas on how to attain emotional literacy - the skill of translating feelings into words so that we can use our thought processes to understand and bring our emotions into balance - and how to calm the limbic system so that we can actually experience what we're feeling. The limbic system processes our emotions and governs our mood, appetite, and sleep cycles. Repeated painful experiences, in childhood or adulthood, over which we have no ability or sense of control or escape can over sensitize us to stress and deregulate our limbic system. Dr. Dayton shows you through concrete examples how to bring your emotions and thoughts into balance and learn healthy ways of 'self-soothing' to relieve symptoms of depression, anxiety, rage, and the desire to self-medicate.
©2007 Tian Dayton (P)2012 Audible, Inc.
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5 out of 5 stars
By N on 22-09-15

Tian's books are essential for ACA recovery!!!

I am a huge fan of Tian Dayton's work. Her books have provided so much understanding of the problems associated with being an Adult Child and at the same time they truly convey a sense of hope for healing and recovery. I strongly recommend both this book, as well as The ACOA Trauma Syndrome.

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1 out of 5 stars
By Brigitte De La Pava on 21-05-16

Fast, monotone, psychobabble.

I have enjoyed many books on audible, I specially like to listen to parenting and self help.
This is neither helpful in a practical sense or engaging and is like having a encyclopedia read in a monotone voice. It is read extremely fast for the complicated content and the content just bounces from one theory to another...very very quickly.
Neither well written or well read in my opinion.
I own 20 books, this is the first that grated on the ears.

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4 out of 5 stars
By Diane on 19-09-14


If you could sum up Emotional Sobriety in three words, what would they be?

Parenting, Defining, Frustrating.

What about Elizabeth Hanley’s performance did you like?

Good performance. Steady and even.

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

Definitely not...needed time in between to process.

Any additional comments?

I was really hoping that we would eventually get to the "solution" for emotional sobriety. Instead, the book delved into the parenting aspects and the childhood trauma that creates emotional sobriety.

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9 of 9 people found this review helpful

5 out of 5 stars
By Amanda on 07-09-13

Great Book for those from Dysfunction

If you had completely abismal parents with severe mental illness or addiction this book is for you. I can't praise this book enough for those who had completely incompetent people as parents. Now if you had slightly selfish parents who were meaningfully employed but were too controlling or manipulative, then Toxic Parents would be a better book for you. It depends on your situation. I like both books but this one was more applicable to me.

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