I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t)

  • by Brené Brown
  • Narrated by Lauren Fortgang
  • 10 hrs and 44 mins
  • Unabridged Audiobook

Publisher's Summary

The quest for perfection is exhausting and unrelenting. We spend too much precious time and energy managing perception and creating carefully edited versions of ourselves to show to the world. As hard as we try, we can't seem to turn off the tapes that fill our heads with messages like, Never good enough! and What will people think?
Why? What fuels this unattainable need to look like we always have it all together? At first glance, we might think its because we admire perfection, but that's not the case. We are actually the most attracted to people we consider to be authentic and down-to-earth. We love people who are real; we're drawn to those who both embrace their imperfections and radiate self-acceptance.
There is a constant barrage of social expectations that teach us that being imperfect is synonymous with being inadequate. Everywhere we turn, there are messages that tell us who, what, and how were supposed to be. So, we learn to hide our struggles and protect ourselves from shame, judgment, criticism, and blame by seeking safety in pretending and perfection.
Based on seven years of ground-breaking research and hundreds of interviews, I Thought It Was Just Me shines a long-overdue light on an important truth: Our imperfections are what connect us to each other and to our humanity. Our vulnerabilities are not weaknesses; they are powerful reminders to keep our hearts and minds open to the reality that we're all in this together.
As Dr. Brown writes, "We need our lives back. It's time to reclaim the gifts of imperfection - the courage to be real, the compassion we need to love ourselves and others, and the connection that gives true purpose and meaning to life. These are the gifts that bring love, laughter, gratitude, empathy and joy into our lives."


What the Critics Say

"Brené Brown’s ability to explore shame and resilience with humor, vulnerability and honesty is both uplifting and liberating. If we want to change our lives, our relationships or even the world, we must start by understanding and overcoming the shame that keeps us silent. This important and hopeful book offers a bold new perspective on the power of telling our stories." (Professor Jody Williams, 1997 Nobel Peace Prize Recipient; Campaign Ambassador, International Campaign to Ban Landmines)
"Grounded in exceptional scholarship and filled with inspiring stories, this is one of those rare books that has the potential to turn lives around." (Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger)
"I Thought It Was Just Me can be a doorway to freedom and self-esteem for many, many readers. (Martha Beck, Ph.D., columnist, O, The Oprah Magazine, and author of Finding Your Own North Star)


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Customer Reviews

Most Helpful

Truly the best self help book I have ever read.

What made the experience of listening to I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn't) the most enjoyable?

I am fifty two and have survived everything from success to near suicide and homelessness.
I have endured a life of despair so intense that even soldiers and medics avoid me.
No self help book ever helped me and I have read hundreds.
This book is a very rare experience.
The author promises nothing and yet
delivers what I can only describe as life changing insight.
There are no words to describe the reality of the changes which this author could help
some people to inscribe into their actual lives.The retrieval of happiness.
If ever compassion and genius were combined this is it..
I believe that this book is up there with the great achievements of the human heart.

What was one of the most memorable moments of I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn't)?

Too many to choose.

Which scene did you most enjoy?

Too many to choose,(genuinely).

If you made a film of this book, what would be the tag line be?

You are not alone.

Any additional comments?

Need I say more.

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- Alex


Should be on every single person's reading list. In one week I've overcome a massive hurdle and have started moving forward. Utterly brilliant
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- winnie

Book Details

  • Release Date: 16-12-2010
  • Publisher: Audible Studios