Modern Romance

  • by Aziz Ansari
  • Narrated by Aziz Ansari
  • 6 hrs and 14 mins
  • Unabridged Audiobook

Publisher's Summary

At some point every one of us embarks on a journey to find love. We meet people, date, get into and out of relationships, all with the hope of finding someone with whom we share a deep connection. This seems standard now, but it's wildly different from what people did even just decades ago. Single people today have more romantic options than at any point in human history. With technology, our abilities to connect with and sort through these options are staggering. So why are so many people frustrated?
Some of our problems are unique to our time."Why did this guy just text me an emoji of a pizza?" "Should I go out with this girl even though she listed Combos as one of her favorite snack foods? Combos?!" "My girlfriend just got a message from some dude named Nathan. Who's Nathan? Did he just send her a photo of his penis? Should I check just to be sure?"
But the transformation of our romantic lives can't be explained by technology alone. In a short period of time, the whole culture of finding love has changed dramatically. A few decades ago, people would find a decent person who lived in their neighbourhood. Their families would meet and, after deciding neither party seemed like a murderer, they would get married and soon have a kid, all by the time they were 24. Today people marry later than ever and spend years of their lives on a quest to find the perfect person, a soul mate.
For years Aziz Ansari has been aiming his comic insight at modern romance, but for Modern Romance the book, he decided he needed to take things to another level. He teamed up with NYU sociologist Eric Klinenberg and designed a massive research project, including hundreds of interviews and focus groups conducted everywhere from Tokyo to Buenos Aires to Wichita. They analysed behavioural data and surveys and created their own online research forum on Reddit, which drew thousands of messages. They enlisted the world's leading social scientists, including Eli Finkel, Helen Fisher, Sheena Iyengar, Barry Schwartz, Sherry Turkle, and Robb Willer. The result is unlike any social science or humour book we've seen before.
In Modern Romance, Ansari combines his irreverent humour with cutting-edge social science to give us an unforgettable tour of our new romantic world.


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Funny performance of a rather unenlightening book

Not sure what I was expecting from this book but I didn't really learn much apart from a whole bunch of obvious stuff that you would have known already if you're watching how people of different ages behave around this topic. Younger generations treat each other with less respect, technology devalues individual interactions, online dating increasing choice but also at the expense of quality, etc. It's all pretty predictable stuff. Probably the most interesting chapter was about non-monogamous relationship types, but this didn't go into a whole lot of depth. In fact in a six hour long book, there wasn't really much time to go into depth on any of these topic. It feels like a quick surface survey rather than a full investigation.

It's amusing in places and well performed, but afterwards I didn't really feel I'd got my money's worth.
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- Howard

A lighthearted take on the romantic modern scene

An overall good book, although not as enlightening for the younger reader. As a 22 year old I found a significant portion of it to be stuff I already knew.
The humour, although occasionally hit and miss is generally good, especially if you're an existing fan of Aziz Ansari.
The reading of the book is fairly good, although he has a habit of reading quickly, and can sound a little monotonous at times. I didn't notice this often enough to disrupt my enjoyment of the book however.
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- Mr Kipling

Book Details

  • Release Date: 16-06-2015
  • Publisher: Penguin Books Ltd