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I've listened to it twice in a row. There are many other great audiobooks on audible that will enrich your life, by Thich Nhat Hanh, Eckhart Tolle, Tara Brach and many more from Sounds True, and you should check those out too. But on the subject of communication, and more widely on engaging genuinely with other people and making yours and their lives richer, this book held several epiphanies for me, and will be a reference often returned to in the future. Do listen to it!
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Undoubtedly one of the most profound learnings of my 45 year old life. If you have ever expressed your feelings and met with a defensive or aggressive response this is for you. If you want to communicate better this is for you.
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My 3rd wife and I have been progressively fighting for months. I've been unemployed for six months. I couldn't say anything to her at all without any conversation nose diving. Before I was even 100% done listening to Violent Commutation, I had a 90 minute healing, positive, loving and productive conversation with my her. Not one raised eyebrow or voice. I have tried thousands of dollars worth of counseling, self help and mentoring. This not only works, but is the only approach that I can ever see working. It simply washes away your prejudice by asking what you need.
If you twist my arm for a suggestion, I would change the sound quality so there is less mouth noises and speed up his message, which I simply did in the app.
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I would like to give it 100 starts. After just only 2 hours of listening to the book, I started using it with my children (9 and 12 year-old boys). I found online a list of needs and feelings, told everyone in the family that I’m learning a new way of speaking so, if they all could please be patient with me while I am looking for my needs and feelings to express what I would like to say. I resolved every single conflict boys had while with me. There was no need for negative consequences. It is amazing. My 12 year-old had a lot of negativity in him and luck of self-esteem. It was breaking my heart, to not be able to help him. We did affirmations every morning, meditation, manifestation, countless hours of talking about power of thought and choices that only he can make. But nothing would really help him fully enjoy his life. This book teaches how to express your care to a person and what astonishing results come after when a person realizes that someone really cares about his/her needs. I realized that even after all the work I have done with my child, he still thought that no one cared and understood what he wanted. But when I started using words “your needs” over and over, he knew that I am here for him, for his needs and feelings and not just lecturing him about what he should do in order to feel better. As a result, I don’t have to ask kids twice for anything (taking garbage out, clean their room, make their beds). They feel good and they want to help me with everything. So far it’s been only 6 days since I started working with the book, and I can totally see a difference in myself. I love the way I feel, I love the way I communicate with people (including my husband), I love that I can express my own feelings and needs without blaming anyone or feeling guilty about it. This book is an answer from heaven that I was begging for. It did change my life in such a short time and I am very grateful it found me (or I found it :) ) Thank you Dr.Rosenberg from all my heart!
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