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Before reading 'Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can't Stop Talking" I knew of differing temperaments, and that I was definitely at the introverted side of the spectrum. However I always felt these traits - such as needing time to myself, wanting to work where I can quietly sit and think, and preferring nights in with my boyfriend rather than out in crowded London bars - were undesirable, or that they meant I was boring, or would maybe mean I wasn't capable of achieving my career ambitions. However this book opened my eyes to a new world, that introversion, persistently depicted as defective in some way in the workplace and social world, is in actual fact advantageous - not just merely 'acceptable' but highly conducive if embraced.
For years I have attempted to quell my easily overly stimulated and sensitive mind and body, and natural instinct to observe others at social gatherings rather than speak out or to take the limelight. Reading this book has uncovered for me how I have been 'acting up' as an extrovert, in order to feel accepted among my colleagues and superiors, and in social circles that are times imposed on us. Susan Cain's narrative explains in fascinating detail longitudinal studies in the neuroscience and psychology field, that illustrate how introversion, as a temperamental characteristic, is found from birth and carries through to adulthood; she skillfully links such research to reveal that successful historical and current figures, were/are in fact introverts.
The author discusses that adapting introverted behaviour in certain situations when this fits with our values and interests is unlikely to be stressful; however when introverts are placed in an extroverts terriority this is over-stimulating and potentially distressing. Reading this book has in effect given me permission to embrace my introverted temperament, and fundamentally accept myself as me, and not conforming to what society portrays as the 'extrovert ideal'. Liberating.
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Ever since I learnt what an introvert was I knew I was one, but used to wonder how I thrived as well as I did in social situations at times. Susan Cain not only shed light on this concept but on so many things in this title. With an excellent combination of thought provoking narrative, uplifting message and downright honest truth I would suggest "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking" by Susan Cain to anyone.
The title itself is so well done I would propose anyone to listen this title if they want to in any way understand introversion (if they don't already and even if you do there is so much more that can be learned from this title). Susan Cain's case studies leaves you (provided you are an introvert) feeling so... understood which in the world of an introvert can be a rare occurrence. I grew up in a household filled with extroverts or persons far more of extroverted than myself and this title does a good job of explaining what I had experienced as well as provide some tips on how to essentially survive. I have learned so much from what this title has said I am completely bowled over! I wish I could give this aspect of the rating 10 stars instead of just 5!
This can be one of those books that get you to change your very mindset. As an extrovert I would assume it would help you to appreciate and value introverts more and also be a bit more aware of how to deal with the introverts in your life. As an introvert personally the book served to simply inspire me and make me feel downright proud to be an introvert with quirks and all! Truly an amazing book!
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Any additional comments?
As an introvert, this book sounded very interesting, especially since I've seen it mentioned a number of times around the internet as "life changing". Unfortunately, this book definitely didn't alter my life in any significant way. I already knew about a vast majority of the concepts since I've experienced most of the cases that are common for introverts. Some of the history and case studies were mildly interesting in explaining why some people are introverts, but the author just kept going on and on about certain topics for what seemed like forever.
The writing style in general was very tedious since most of the chapters start out in a weird faux documentary style of the author visiting different people and places to try to learn from different people's experiences on certain topics. I suspect this was to make it seem more intimate and less of a "knowledge dump", but instead it makes the book feel forced and less scientific. One major flaw that I noticed multiple times was that the author extrapolated meaning out of cherry picked anecdotes and then proceeded to talk about them as fact.
If I did learn anything, it's that the term introvert encompasses a huge spectrum of personal traits and characteristics. It's actually mentioned a few times, that a certain trait is common in most introverts, but not all. This makes the parts where the author proceeds to give advice on dealing with introverts that much more confusing since the advice will not cater for every person. Yes, most of the advice is a good starting point, but each person is different and as a manager, partner, friend or parent, you would be better served by actually talking to the person and working things out with them as individuals.
The general tone of the book was also overly "introverts are special", which is a shame, since the people who would actually benefit from this book more are the extroverted people who have an overly simplistic view on the topic of introversion. However, because of the tone, I doubt they'd enjoy reading it since half the time, they're made out to be this evil entity that's oppressing the poor, helpless introverts. I guess teenagers who struggle with being social would get a lot out of this book as well, but that's about the only audience that will enjoy it. Most adult introverts already know how to live with their personality and understand their situation in a society that prefers extroversion. This book is disturbingly flawed, often boring and preachy, so while there is definitely some useful information contained within, I'd be hesitant to recommend it.
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If you could sum up Quiet in three words, what would they be?
Perceptive, compassionate, brilliant.
What did you like best about this story?
I loved this book. It made me look at myself and many other people I know in an entirely different light.
Have you listened to any of Kathe Mazur’s other performances before? How does this one compare?
I haven't listened to any other of Kathe Mazur's performances.
Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?
I did shed a tear or two, especially when the author wrote about her grandfather and people like him. People who achieve great and noble things in a self-effacing and humble manner.
Any additional comments?
Everyone should read it - there are just so many introverts in the world whose great qualities are not nurtured or valued.
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