The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing

  • by Beverly Engel
  • Narrated by Deanna Hurst
  • 10 hrs and 2 mins
  • Unabridged Audiobook

Publisher's Summary

The number of people who become involved with partners who abuse them emotionally and/or who are emotionally abusive themselves is phenomenal, and yet emotional abuse is the least understood form of abuse. In this breakthrough book, Beverly Engel, one of the world's leading experts on the subject, shows us what emotional abuse is and what to do about it. Whether you suspect you are being emotionally abused, fear that you might be emotionally abusing your partner, or think that both you and your partner are emotionally abusing each other, this book is for you.
The Emotionally Abusive Relationship will tell you how to identify emotional abuse and how to find the roots of your behavior. Combining dramatic personal stories with action steps to heal, Engel provides prescriptive strategies that will allow you and your partner to work together to stop bringing out the worst in each other and stop the abuse. By teaching those who are being emotionally abused how to help themselves and those who are being emotionally abusive how to stop abusing, The Emotionally Abusive Relationship offers the expert guidance and support you need.


What the Critics Say

"Engel doesn't just describe - she shows us the way out." (Susan Forward, author of Emotional Blackmail)
"In this book, Beverly Engel clearly and with caring offers step-by-step strategies to stop emotional abuse. . . helping both victims and abusers to identify the patterns of this painful and traumatic type of abuse. This book is a guide both for individuals and for couples stuck in the tragic patterns of emotional abuse." (Marti Loring, Ph.D., author of Emotional Abuse and coeditor of The Journal of Emotional Abuse)
"This groundbreaking book succeeds in helping people stop emotional abuse by focusing on both the abuser and the abused and showing each party what emotional abuse is, how it affects the relationship, and how to stop it. Its unique focus on the dynamic relationship makes it more likely that each person will grasp the tools for change and really use them." (Randi Kreger, author of The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook and owner of


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Customer Reviews

Most Helpful

An excellent book

When my heart was broken to million pieces , I started looking for the reasons why all my relationships had the same painful ending. In this journey I found I have been abused emotionally. I searched for a book to help me understand the problem and reasons behind it and fortunately I found this book. I loved the way that author explain the problem, not divide you and your partner to monsters and victims. When I was listening to the book, I cried a lot. It was difficult to see what happened to me. But at the end I am happy that I know my problem better. I highly recommend the book.
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- sara

Very good and useful stuff

If you could sum up The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing in three words, what would they be?

I find this work extremely useful. A lot of insights about "abusive relationships". There are few things I see differently, but as we say in the 12-Step Fellowship: "... take what you find useful and leave the rest...".

What did you like best about this story?

Many things. I will just mention this one: "the author provides an excellent analysis of the mechanisms controlling both the abuser and the abused person, and practical suggestions on how to deal with and behave in concrete situations".

Any additional comments?

Great thanks to the author for her extensive work.

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- chris

Book Details

  • Release Date: 31-07-2012
  • Publisher: Audible Studios