• The Gardener and the Carpenter

  • What the New Science of Child Development Tells Us About the Relationship Between Parents and Children
  • By: Alison Gopnik
  • Narrated by: Erin Bennett
  • Length: 8 hrs and 51 mins
  • Unabridged Audiobook
  • Release date: 09-08-16
  • Language: English
  • Publisher: Audible Studios
  • 3.5 out of 5 stars 3.7 (19 ratings)
  • Whispersync for Voice-ready

Summary

Caring deeply about our children is part of what makes us human. Yet the thing we call "parenting" is a surprisingly new invention. In the past 30 years, the concept of parenting and the multibillion-dollar industry surrounding it have transformed child care into obsessive, controlling, and goal-oriented labor intended to create a particular kind of child and therefore a particular kind of adult.
In The Gardener and the Carpenter, pioneering developmental psychologist and philosopher Alison Gopnik argues that the familiar 21st-century picture of parents and children is profoundly wrong - it's not just based on bad science, it's bad for kids and parents, too. Drawing on the study of human evolution and her own cutting-edge scientific research into how children learn, Gopnik shows that although caring for children is profoundly important, it is not a matter of shaping them to turn out a particular way. Children are designed to be messy and unpredictable, playful and imaginative, and very different both from their parents and from each other. The variability and flexibility of childhood lets them innovate, create, and survive in an unpredictable world. "Parenting" won't make children learn - but caring parents let children learn by creating secure, loving environments.
©2016 Alison Gopnik (P)2016 Audible, Inc.
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Critic reviews

"Narrator Erin Bennett commendably presents this unique audiobook on raising children. Alison Gopnik, an expert on children's development, lambasts the current style of parenting, which she calls the 'carpenter method' because it relies on an established blueprint (as in making a chair) to produce a successful but predictable child who also excels at test taking. Gopnik prefers the 'gardener approach,' which gives the child love, encouragement, and freedom to play and imagine, which she says results in a more creativity. Bennett's delivery of Gopnik's passionate argument is appealing and easy to understand. She also captures Gopnik's subtle humor and supporting quotes from experts. The moving conclusion comes full circle as it discusses end-of-life commitments that adult children have to their elderly parents." ( AudioFile Magazine)
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Customer Reviews

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2 out of 5 stars
By Bianca on 18-06-18

Well read but not the content you might think...

The narration is clear but the content is very theoretical with no practical guidance or advice. I was hoping for some ideas for the application of what the author has gleaned from all her experience and research. If I had expected to listen to this as an exploration of current theories and the reasons for them, I might have enjoyed it more. It was quite dense, though, and as I was listening out for what I can do or expect as a new parent, I found it quite slow-going (and disappointing). I am still in search of a more practically useful book on how babies and children develop and how I can offer the best of me to support my children.

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5 out of 5 stars
By Megan on 31-12-17

One of the best books I have listened too

Whilst I agree with other reviews that the title doesn't sum up the book well, the book was much better than I had anticipated from the title! Tons of scientific information, from all areas of science e.g. genetics, behavioural, written in accessible language. Gopnik is not patronising and is critical of her own arguments - two qualities which made this book a very enjoyable listen. The topics are fascinating too, and cover arguments I have not read about elsewhere (and I have read alot on child development.) If I was to give the book a more suiting title it would be; an overview on the past present and future of childhood and child raising. Note: this is not a parenting book as such, rather a interesting viewpoint on childhood, which is nonetheless relevant and accessible to parents - just don't expect any solutions to your parenting worries!

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5 out of 5 stars
By See Reverse on 18-01-17

Stop Parenting and Be a Parent

Would you listen to The Gardener and the Carpenter again? Why?

Yes - the book makes a strong case for being a parent to your children rather than parenting them toward your own specific end. It's definitely a message to hear and appreciate more than once.

Who was your favorite character and why?

The author talks about her experience as a grandmother throughout the book, which is a nice backdrop to the scientific understanding of the parent-child relationship.

What does Erin Bennett bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

Erin conveys some of the coy remarks well - I'm not sure they would have stood out as clearly in the text.

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

I like this book in snippets - listening all in one sitting wouldn't do it justice.

Any additional comments?

Alison Gopnik is quoted so frequently in other books. It was nice to hear her voice directly - she has a wisdom about her work that other authors miss entirely.

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4 of 4 people found this review helpful

5 out of 5 stars
By Chris on 19-11-16

Great book about modern parenting misconceptions

Really great book that takes you through historical and traditional child rearing ideals to modern day misunderstandings. It was an enlightening read on how childrens' brains develop and how wrong our traditional ideas of this are. It's a very short book but touches on many examples and interesting view points. It had a good flow but not many action points to take away, except that I feel I need to read more about the subject!

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