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First part of this book successfully makes the case for being liked. It's easy to divide the world into friends (people you like and who like you) and enemies (people you dislike and who dislike you) but this is all so much conceptualisation. Being liked is something that can be learned, and you can make those who you think dislike you like you simply by changing your attitude and your behaviour.
Sanders, who narrates compellingly, uses a 4 principle model: friendliness, relevance, empathy and realness.
He uses the second part of the book to argue why these principles will enable you to succeed. There are also exercises to get you to apply the model to yourself.
The abridged version is to be recommended. I felt it would have become tedious if it had gone much beyond 5 hours.
All in all an effective book successfully transfered to audiobook format.
3 of 4 people found this review helpful
Tim Sanders has done us a favor by updating the principles of likability based on solid research and detailed "how-to" steps that can raise our L-factors from the normal 4 thru 6 to a 9 or a 10. I have always considered myself a social and likable person, but I found when I applied his subfactors of friendliness, relevance, empathy and realness, it was astonishing how much more positive my interactions with co-workers, friends and acquaintances developed. I chose the abridged version of Sanders himself reading his text, even though he is not a professional reader, because his enthusiasm and sincerity makes up for the occasional misplaced emphasis on a word in a sentence here and there. Very listenable.
I noted there were some sour reviews of the unabridged version. Well there's no accounting for taste. I found if you listen and absorb what Sanders is saying, this is an excellent update to the principles in "How to Win Friends ..." by Dale Carnegie, which is good as far as it goes but leaves out the critical factor: realness. If you are looking to improve your relations with your fellow travelers on this planet, this listen is time well spent.
16 of 17 people found this review helpful
Sanders does a great job of presenting his analysis on why we like some people more than others and how being liked positively impacts our lives. He breaks it down into managable portions, and finishes with advice on implementing changes to improve in each area. The book is straight forward, well thought out, and most all points reference credible studies and relevent research. I found the book very enjoyable, helpful, and interesting. Sanders does a great job of reading it, so get the version with his narration.
1 of 2 people found this review helpful